Brown Beauty Mom Conversations: My Son Has a Speech Delay

Picture it: You find out you’re pregnant with child. You do everything in your power to do what’s the Doctors ask you so the baby comes out healthy. You eat right, go to prenatal appointments, and 39 weeks later your child is here. You breast feed until you cannot anymore for health reasons. He’s eating well, cooing, and starting to walk. You take your child to the routine Doctor’s appointments and keep up with the shot schedule. Your child doesn’t speak as much to others, according to others. Ears evaluated and they are fine. Then your child and family go through the early intervention, which is the next step. Then it comes out that he has a 68% speech delay. The diagnosis to this day has rocked our family. Both of us (Chris and myself) feel like we could’ve done more. Seeing that there’s a stigma attached to young African-American boys having delays and disabilities we were in denial. Piggybacking on grieving my mom’s death, we weren’t sure what to think, but we knew Jordan needed the services.

We have asked several parents that are in the same situation or that are knowledgeable of IEP’s and delays what they think. BBM is more than a beauty blog, I’m a mom, a woman. Jordan is my love, I am momma bear. I felt ashamed, like it was something I did wrong. I cried, and cried.

So after my Sorority sister talked me off the ledge about IEP’s, I figured I should tell our story to help others in the same situation as ours. Jordan is now 3 and aged out of Early Intervention, into CPS (Chicago Public Schools). He will only attend CPS for his services and continue at this preschool that we love. He is now scheduled for an IEP testing session.

I’d rather us take care of this now instead of High School, when it’s harder to catch up. Maybe soon he will not need the services anymore. We pray everyday that he catches up and is consistent, which means more of our life is teaching him at home too. He loves the Who’s Toes Are Those?/Who’s Knees Are These? books. He points to his knees and toes, we sing and dance. I’m proud of where he is developmentally, speech, etc in the past few months.


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    Thanks for sharing! You know I am right here with you, with Emma! We do speech therapy in school and out of school and PT and OT both in and out of school…I think it’s normal to feel like you did something wrong but you didn’t (I went through that too…and sometimes I still battle with it)! You are doing a great job by getting him he services he needs and like I pray that Emma won’t always need them I will include your little one in my prayers as well! **Hugs Mama**

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      Thank you for commenting Carissa! I went back and forth for months to post this, but I’m glad I did. I’m glad I’m not alone. Thank you and I will keep you and Emma in my prayers too!

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    Brandy I’m so proud of you for telling your story. Every good mother has a measure of guilt when it comes to their children whether it’s something we can or can’t control. It just goes along with the territory. I am glad you all are using all of the available resources. Being in denial would have been more harmful to him in the long run. So you and Chris keep doing what’s best for Jordan. You all are his biggest advocates.

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    Thanks for sharing. I’m not a mother, but I would totally feel as if maybe I did something or not done enough. But I’m happy he has the help and tools needed that’s available. I feel like he’s going to be ok and it’s just an obstacle that he will overcome. Sending positive vibes your way!

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