The month of mothers rolls on with this weeks BBM Beauty Quiz participant Gayl-Ann Pinnock from Loved More This Time. She’s a beautiful person inside and out. I haven’t met her in person, but if I did, I would give her the biggest and longest hug (I’m a hugger). She gets my style and personality. Not to mention she picks all the amazing pieces for her shop along with her beautiful daughter. Enjoy this week’s BBM Beauty Quiz!
BBM: Do you wear makeup? If so, what products is a part of your routine?
GP: You know, the older I get, the less makeup I wear. For the most part my makeup regimen is limited to concealer for those dark under eye circles that just come with age and a little pressed powered, mascara and lip gloss all from Black Radiance. If I’m feeling really naughty, I may even go as far as to put on some ‘Bawse Lady’ lip stick from the Lip Bar which is literally THEE most perfect shade of red that I have ever found for my skin tone and is sold only on Target.com . I went natural about 3 years ago and my makeup routine has followed suit. If you’d asked me this question four years ago I would have given you a laundry list of brand name make up products that I used daily. From MAC to Lancôme to NARS and so on…. I literally still have ALL my makeup packed away in a medium sized container in my bedroom closet. With 4 kids, I just don’t have time for all that primping and I’ve learned to love my ‘almost’ bare face look so much more than my dolled-up face. When I look in the mirror now, I see ME, I recognize who I see and I love it.
BBM: Do you have a special skincare routine or one at all?
GP: I wish I could say that I am religious about maintaining a proper skincare routine…. But unfortunately, I can’t. I’m even guilty of forgetting to wash my face at night on an almost daily basis. However, I will say that when I DO manage to take care of my skin, I use organic and holistic products. Again, when I went natural things like my skincare products changed drastically too. Instead of a plethora of expensive products, I really now only use liquid black soap as a cleanser (handmade by a coworker of mine), witch hazel as a toner/astringent and almond oil that I purchase from a health food store as a moisturizer. If I want to “treat” myself I will apply a bentonite clay and apple cider vinegar mask for that deep cleaning effect. I’ve been blessed to have always had nice skin. Nature and genetics have done right by me.
BBM: What was your first beauty purchase?
GP: My first beauty purchase that I can remember was a dark brown and black eyeliner from a beauty supply store near my home, that I would use as lip liner. Lol, it was an early 90’s thing. The black was used to line the outer lips, the dark brown went inside of that and I would top it off with a light café au late colored lip gloss in the pout of my bottom lip. Very Mary J Blidge. Of course I had to do all of this when I got to school because my Jamaican mother would have lost her cool (and I would have lost my head) if even ATTEMPTED to leave the house in more than Chapstick. Ah, the good ole days.
BBM: How do you maintain self-care while having young children?
GP: I’m going to brag a little bit and say that I’m pretty much a pro at this work/life/mom balance now. I have 4 children ages 17, 14, 9 and 6 months old. I’ve done this dance a few times over. I’ve recently finally learned the importance of self-care, which is something I neglected with my older children and paid dearly for. Now I meditate, I journal, go for hikes with the little ones (being in nature has such a decompression quality about it) and soak in hot baths with herbs, essential oils, Epsom and sea salts. Those are my self-care rituals and a part of my spiritual practice. I lucked out with this last baby boy of mine in that I have teenage daughters who can help me with him while I sneak in a few minutes of “me” time. That “me” time is so very important when it comes to mental health and having to balance the endless demands of being a single mom, a full-time employee in Corporate America and a small business owner. If you don’t take care of yourself, you will be serving from an empty vessel which will lead to an inevitable breakdown. Been there, done that, wrote about it, won’t go back. I make sure to show myself just how much I am worth and what love looks like, by taking care of myself so that there is enough me to take care of those whom I love.
BBM: Any motherhood advice for our readers?
GP: My advice, just to love your kids. Love them as much as you can. Our best work comes from simply LOVING. Children grow up so fast. I look at my 17-year-old daughter (who will have gone to her high school prom once this has posted) and I just can’t believe that the time has flown by so quickly. Listen to your gut when it comes to parenting. Parenting books are a sham. You live and you learn and experience is really the best teacher. When your kids are adults and grown, and gone off to start families of their own, it won’t matter that you let them eat chocolate or flaming hot Cheetos before bed or that their clothes didn’t always match or that they didn’t consistently eat their Flintstone vitamins or that you let them co sleep with you until they were ten. All that will matter is that they felt loved. There are things that I do differently with my 9-year-old than I did with my 17 and 14-year-olds because I’ve learned through trial and error what is effective and what isn’t. No one can teach you how to parent, you must let life do that for you. It always does. Just spend as much time as humanly possible loving on your babies. All the other stuff will work itself out.
Bio: I am a Southern California native, first generation Jamaican-American and a mother of 4. My day job is that of a Financial Associate Analyst in the Finance organization for Kaiser Permanente. My passion is being the co-owner (Aaleia my 14-year-old daughter is the other co-owner) of the Vintage Accessory Etsy Boutique ‘Loved More This Time’. Aaleia and I source vintage gems from all over Southern California. We are big on helping to preserve the longevity of the planet by promoting sustainable fashion. What is sustainable fashion? It is ethically and environmentally friendly fashion which does not have to mean wearing only hemp clothing and wheat germ make up. Sustainable fashion ultimately asks, “why tax our already diminishing natural resources by producing and manufacturing MORE jewelry and MORE accessories and MORE shiny baubles when there are already SO many phenomenal pieces out there just waiting to be found and ‘loved more this time’”?
I love to read, love to write poetry and I absolutely LOVE being a mother. I would do it again in a heartbeat if given the opportunity to be the vessel for another spirits ascension to this plane. I think 6 six kids would be a reasonable stopping point lol.